First Nigella Lawson is choked by her husband, Charles Saatchi, in public no less. Then she gets hit with a media blitz about her sad predicament, to which I’m now adding my bit.
The only good that comes out of these painful, sordid events is that they raise awareness of domestic abuse, which tends, after all, to happen behind closed doors, where victims remain alone to cope with their attackers.
This story happened to make headlines at a moment when I was reflecting that among the communications I’ve received from readers since the publication Of Sex Changes, some of the most meaningful and moving have been those that come from women who say that while the specifics of my story may not match theirs, the book has helped them decide to leave a relationship that is in some way – physically, emotionally – abusive. Helping anyone else in this way makes it all worthwhile.
This Huffington Post Editorial skirts a blaming-the-victim attitude, which I don’t like or share. But it does make a good point: if the relationship is hurting you, end it. http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/liz-jarvis/nigella-lawson-assault_b_3457587.html
And if you know someone in an abusive relationship, don’t blame them; help them get out while they can.